marriage separation is one of those topics that no one really wants to talk about. For some marriage separation is just as exciting to talk about as a colon cleanse. Who wants to have their colon cleansed? I know I don't but it's indispensable sometimes. In the United States 4.9 out of every 1000 people experience marriage separation in any given year and that number does not ever seem to diminish. Also as you may already know, one out of every two marriages end in marriage separation. If that number doesn't scare you and make you think twice about getting married, then you are unquestionably in a group of your own.
In no way am I saying you need to be afraid of marriage, but it's not to soothing to know that you have a 50/50 chance with having your marriage last. I personally would like to have a much higher portion in knowing my marriage is going to last. I am sure most people don't think of these stats before they get married and even if they do, they believe they are surely going to be in that 50% of lasting marriages. That is the way you should think. If you go into marriage thinking you are going to be in that 50% of marriages that end in marriage separation, then you have already failed.
With new engineering getting a marriage separation is so much easier. Online marriage separation has skyrocketed. Anyone can now spend as little as $100 and have marriage separation forms generated and perform their own marriage separation. It may sound like a bad thing, but considering the number of people that have separated from their spouses and possibly involved or even living with someone else still married because they could not afford a traditional marriage separation is even more alarming.
marriage separation is not the end of the world. Sometimes you have to completely close one door in order to have another door opened for you. What's behind that next door is most likely ten times better than the door that you were currently standing in. But on the flip side of that coin don't go thinking the grass is greener on the other side just because you feel you want to see if you can unlock some other doors. It is always best to do whatever you can to save your marriage before you go looking for a way out of it. If you feel you have expended ALL measures in saving your marriage then and only then should you consider marriage separation.
in conclusion, before you open another door in your life or get involved with someone else, please be sure to completely close the door to your current marriage. Whether you get an online marriage separation or a traditional marriage separation, just make sure you do things the right way. If you don't it will come back to bite you in the end.
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